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🎁 Naked Confidenceβ„’ Advent Calendar – A to C 🎁

Welcome to my Advent Calendar! πŸ˜πŸŽ‰

Rather than chocolates, throughout December I will be revealing new aspects of Naked Confidenceβ„’ (1 per day on LinkedIn, grouped together here every Friday for ease) 🎁

And hopefully by Christmas you will be feeling positive, inspired, and of course Nakedly Confident! 😊πŸ”₯πŸ’ͺ

🎁 First, A is for AWARENESS 🎁

And it’s fitting we’re starting with this because I say to my clients,

🌟 Self-Awareness is the first step.

You have to start by building your AWARENESS of your thoughts and feelings

– if you don’t have that, you won’t know that you would benefit from changing them

(usually to something more positive! πŸ˜‰)

🎁 A’s ACTION

Today, every time you pick up the phone, or you’re about to go on a Zoom call, take a moment to check in on yourself:

πŸ€” what am I feeling?

πŸ€” what am I thinking?

πŸ€” is it HELPFUL to me?

Just start by noticing.

Remember, self-awareness is the first step 😊

🎁 Second, B is for BRAIN 🎁

It’s sad but true: your brain is not always your friend… πŸ˜”

But this isn’t because you are flawed, or “wrong” – it’s simply biological.

The brain’s primary purpose is to keep you alive, so you can spread your genes 🐣

It has evolved to be successful at this by keeping you away from things that threaten you.

Think of the negativity bias:

❗️ humans are proven to remember negatives more than positives.

And you can see why this would be the case:

which is more important to your survival –

πŸ… remembering where the sabre-toothed tiger’s cave is?

🌼 or the field of pretty flowers…?

The problem is that the brain misunderstands what constitute a threat.

These days, situations that feel threatening to you include giving presentations, asserting your opinion in a meeting, going for a promotion… 😬

So your brain tries to keep you safe – by keeping you small.

It throws up negative thoughts to keep you away from this “dangerous” stuff.

But YOU get to choose which thoughts you allow to take space in your brain! 😁πŸ’ͺ

Remember, thoughts aren’t REAL – they’re just thoughts.

🎁 B’s ACTION

When you get a thought that is potentially unhelpful to you (see 🎁 A above), question it.

πŸ€” “Is that REALLY true?”

Most of the time you’ll find it isn’t… πŸ˜‰

🎁 C is for CRITIC/ CHEERLEADER 🎁

β€œStaying out of judgement [is] not easy when you enjoy it as much as most of us do…”

So says the wonderful Brené Brown 😁

The problem is, all too often we’re not just judging others – we’re also judging ourselves.

(Especially when we have Imposter Syndrome…)

That voice in our heads is a terrible Critic: belittling us, condemning us, undermining us… 😩

But it doesn’t have to be that way! 🌟

You can learn to quieten that Critic, and replace it with a Cheerleader voice instead, encouraging you on 😊πŸ’ͺ

🎁 C’s ACTION

Practice β€œsituational” rather than β€œpersonal” judgement.

❌ Instead of, β€œshe was late because she doesn’t care about me” (personal)…

βœ… …think β€œshe was late because she got stuck in traffic/ her babysitter was late/ she lost her keys” (situational).

In other words, it’s not about YOU.

πŸ”₯ Give the benefit of the doubt – and not just to others, to yourself as well 😊

Remember, most of the time, you’re doing the best you can 😍

So keep telling yourself that… 😁πŸ”₯πŸ’ͺ

✴️ D IS FOR DETERMINATION 🎁✴️

A turning point for me with my Imposter-fuelled chronic fatigue and panic attacks:

😱 learning that I had (unintentionally) been creating them, because of the way I thought.

I had two choices at that moment:

πŸ€” deny this, and stay stuck

πŸ€” or accept this, despite the terrible wasted years that meant I’d been giving to myself – and decide that it stops now…

I chose to accept it 🌟

That was the start of re-training my brain into more positive pathways

(and the end of my chronic fatigue and panic attacks).

And that took Determination! 😁πŸ”₯πŸ’ͺ

And if this is something you want to achieve – it will take Determination from you too.

I can give you powerful tools and techniques, but I can’t do this for you.

YOU have to do it for yourself πŸ’ͺ

You have to find your own Determination πŸ”₯

But I will be there with you, supporting you & guiding you, every step of the way πŸ€—πŸ€—πŸ€—

🎁 D’s ACTION

Take a moment to think about Future You, in a year’s time.

❓ How important is it to Future You that you’ve resolved your Imposter?

❓ What difference would it make to how Future You thinks and feels?

❓ What kind of an impact would it have on Future You’s career success, and happiness?

Really visualise what you stand to gain by doing this work 🌟

And use that to fuel your determination to make changes, so that Future You becomes real 😍

✴️ E IS FOR ENERGY 🎁✴️

🏎 FULL SPEED for as long as possible…

😡 Then CRASH, and sofa-ridden for days to recover.

That was my Imposter-fuelled boom and bust life.

I tell my clients, their two most important assets are:

⏰ their time – we all recognise the importance of productivity…

πŸ”‹ …but also their ENERGY, which gets less of a look-in.

But it’s crucial!

Think about how you use your energy – don’t waste it on things that don’t matter (like worrying about things you can’t change) 😫

and instead focus it on the actions, behaviours and beliefs that are going to give you the best possible results 😎

Remember, it takes energy to re-wire your brain away from Imposter Syndrome! πŸ’ͺ

Don’t be like me, pushing on, driven by those terrible thoughts, until you crash… 😞

🎁 E’s ACTION

Make a commitment to re-charge! 🌟

Not just today (although that is a great use of a Sunday πŸ˜‰)

but every day for the next week πŸ”₯

One of my clients spent so much time “striving”, in every area of her life and her career

– I gave her homework to spend 15 minutes a day in “ease”

– which for her was watching rubbish TV (something I am also fond of!) πŸ“Ί

And as a result, she was not only more able to deal with the stresses of her career

– she was more able to manage her unhelpful thoughts 😁πŸ’ͺ

So what’s your daily moment of ease? πŸ€”

πŸ”₯ Commit to doing something re-charging, just for you, every day for the next week.

Enjoy! And notice the benefits ✨

✴️ F IS FOR FALSE BELIEF 🎁✴️

I used to be 5 minutes late, for everything ⏱

(It is actually quite a skill to be consistently 5 minutes late – not more, not less.)

For years, I tried so many things to help me be on time:

⏱ planning my route and adding 15 minutes…

⏱ getting ready to leave the house 10 minutes before…

⏱ setting alarms to remind me…

But nothing worked! 😫

I was honestly despairing

– and as my daughter was then nearly 1, I was genuinely scared she was destined for a life of being rushed out of the house, with me screaming, “we’re LATE!” 😞

But I discovered the solution:

πŸ’‘ I had a False belief that “I was a late person”.

I’ve no idea where this came from

– but I believed it so strongly that even when I tried to be on time, I sabotaged myself so I could live up to it.

Until my coach trainer helped me get rid of this False belief 😊

And now, I’m on time! πŸŽ‰

(Not 100% of the time – sometimes the traffic, or technology, catches me out – but the vast majority of the time.)

That inevitable 5 minutes late has gone, forever.

And I (and my daughter) are so grateful πŸ˜ŠπŸ™

🎁 F’s ACTION

So today, think about what False beliefs you have about yourself.

Anything that starts with “I am a…” and ends in something limiting is usually a clue:

❗️ I am shy… I am bad at public speaking… I am disorganised…

Self-awareness is the first step – notice what yours is!

Then challenge it – think of time when that WASN’T true.

(You won’t be eg disorganised every minute, in every area of your life.)

And change it from “I am…” to “I can sometimes be….”.

Suddenly it’s not part of your identity – it’s something you DO occasionally instead.

(Bonus points: go further – even though it’s not grammatically correct, say instead, “I can sometimes do shy behaviour…” )

Because remember, if this is about things you DO, not who you ARE…

…that gives you so much more room to change 😁πŸ”₯πŸ’ͺ

✴️ G IS FOR GOALS 🎁✴️

Yeah, yeah, I know, another blog about how important it is to set goals, especially with the new year coming…

And goals ARE important –

(no coach is ever going to disagree with that)

BUT.

βœ… Goals can either be helpful, focussing & motivating you

❌ Or they can become yet another stick to beat yourself up with – another thing you’ve failed to achieve…

(most likely in those with #ImposterSyndrome thinking)

🎁 G’s ACTION

So if goals can make you feel like you’ve failed, try setting your overarching goal as a FEELING, rather than an output.

🌟 What do you really want to FEEL during 2022?

🌟 Do you want to feel content / energetic / confident?

🌟 Once you know that, you can have a think about what actions you could take that contribute to you feeling that way…

🌟 And don’t forget to use this feeling to prioritise your efforts – remember the 80/20 rule, your biggest impact comes from only 20% of your actions…

For example, I set as my goal for 2021 that I wanted to feel

🌟 BALANCED & THRIVING

What this means for me is:

βœ… a few minutes of yoga, meditation and journalling every morning before my daughter wakes up

βœ… doing proper meal plans for the family, so we don’t end up eating the same meals every night because I haven’t felt inspired / organised

(I know this is niche, but honestly this is a big potential stressor for me)

βœ… and investing in a coach to support my business development.

These three things combine to give me the feeling of BALANCED & THRIVING.

πŸ”₯ So what do you want to feel in 2022? πŸ€”

✴️ H IS FOR HABITS 🎁✴️

“We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence, then, is not an act, but a habit.”*

❌ It’s not the one-off, big actions or decisions that really shape our lives.

βœ… It’s actually those small things we do every day.

So the best way to make change is by making small changes πŸ’ͺ

πŸ”₯ Want to feel more calm? Start with 5 minutes of meditation.

πŸ”₯ Want to feel more confident? Write down one thing every day you’re proud of achieving.

πŸ”₯ Want to feel more energised? Give yourself a complete break for 15 minutes at lunchtime.

These are not big things – they’re called microtries, ie small actions you can fit easily into your day.

But the key thing that makes a difference:

βœ… that you do them consistently!

(That’s why it’s important they’re small – so they’re easy to do, and you actually do DO them…)

🎁 H’s ACTION

So, building on yesterday’s G for GOALS, think of that feeling you want to feel during 2022…

…then choose one microtry that will help you feel that feeling.

And make it a daily habit!

Find the best way to do this for you:

βœ… set an alarm

βœ… create external accountability (announce it in the comments below!)

βœ… identify a reward for when you achieve it for a week/ month etc.

Remember, you are much more likely to do it if it’s small.

And it will have much more impact if you do it CONSISTENTLY!

Make it a habit 😁

Good luck! πŸ’ͺπŸ”₯

✴️ I IS FOR “I” 🎁✴️

“I” – such a simple word – but one that my clients with #ImposterSyndrome can really struggle with.

😞 Being confident to own what “I” did, especially when part of a team.

😞 Thinking about what “I” need, not only thinking about the needs of everyone else.

😞 Knowing what “I” want to get out of a particular meeting, not just being there to provide solutions for others.

🌟 One of my clients defined this as “enlightened self-interest”.

If you are thinking about what “I” need and want, those around you will benefit too:

βœ… you will be delivering more effectively

βœ… you will be making sure wider priorities are considered

βœ… and you won’t be risking your own burnout, which leaves the rest of the team struggling on without you…

🎁 I’s ACTION

For the rest of this week, before you go on a Zoom call/ pick up the phone/ go into a meeting, think to yourself:

πŸ”₯ “what do *I* want to get out of this?”

To get into the habit of this (see H yesterday!), it’s a good idea to actually write it down.

πŸ”₯ Making sure you think about this is both good for your mindset (learning to consider YOUR wants and needs)

– and also good for your results πŸ’ͺ

🎁 Bonus tip: don’t forget the crucial importance of using “I” in interviews!

If you say “we”, how does the interviewer know what YOU actually did…? πŸ€”

✴️ J IS FOR JUDGEMENT 🎁✴️

“They don’t pay me for time served – they pay me for my judgement”

One of my former senior Civil Service colleagues, now a Permanent Secretary, said this to me once πŸ’‘

She makes a determined effort to leave work on time, every day –

🌟 because she knows that if she overworks, her judgement suffers.

This is something so many of my clients with #ImposterSyndrome struggle with –

❌ they confuse hours worked, with results delivered.

And actually, it’s the results that matter…

🎁 J’s ACTION

Having a goal time for when you log off for the day is so important – particularly in the WFH world…

πŸ”₯ So if you haven’t got one, today is the day to set one!

πŸ”₯ And even if you have, think about how you are going to help yourself stick to it:

βœ… journal the impact you notice on your energy levels and effectiveness

βœ… decide how you are going to reward yourself for succeeding

βœ… create external accountability (tell your team, set an alarm)

βœ… choose something specific you will do when you finish: go for a walk, start making dinner, watch some TV (even better if the thing is time-specific, like a gym class!)

βœ… and review after a week/ month – is it realistic? Would it be better adjusted?

But one caveat – don’t let this become another stick to beat yourself up with! πŸ˜‰

There will sometimes be times when you genuinely CAN’T stick to it.

Remember: progress, not perfection 😁πŸ’ͺ

πŸ”₯ Do you have a logging off time? πŸ€”

✴️ K IS FOR KINDNESS ✴️

How kind are you, to YOU? πŸ€”

Most of us recognise the importance of being kind to others

– while beating ourselves up inside our heads 😩

As the saying goes, you’d never speak to a friend or a child the way you speak to yourself πŸ˜”

And this is especially true with #ImposterSyndrome, when that inner Critic is louder and more vicious than most πŸ₯Ί

🎁 K’s ACTION

Take a moment, and picture yourself as a young child – maybe under 10.

Really look at that little you

– see the clothes you’re wearing, the hairstyle, the expression on your face πŸ§’

Then remember that little you is still inside you ✨

When you next notice you beating yourself up (see A for self-Awareness!)

– picture that little child again, and then talk directly to them.

You will notice your language change! 😊

Learning compassion and self-kindness is such an important step πŸ€—πŸ€—πŸ€—

✴️ L IS FOR LANGUAGE 🎁✴️

Do you “ALWAYS”, or “NEVER”, do something? πŸ€”

What about those things you “SHOULD” or “OUGHT TO” be doing…? πŸ€·β€β™€οΈ

Language can be very dangerous.

As one of my favourite quotes says,

🌟 “watch what you tell yourself – you might be listening…”

πŸ’‘ When we use black and white language (always/ never)…

…or imperative obligations (should/ought to)…

⛔️ we’re creating limits for ourselves.

❗️or a stick to beat ourselves up with 😩

And feeding that Imposter…

🎁 L’s ACTION

So today, watch your language!

Add in “SOMETIMES”, or “YET” – so much growth mindset magic in those three little words 🌱✨

and turn “SHOULDs” into “WANTs” or “WISHes”.

Your mindset will thank you! πŸ˜„πŸ’ͺ

✴️ M IS FOR MIRROR 🎁✴️

When you consider your abilities and achievements, do you give yourself a TRUE reflection? πŸ€”

Or is it like you’re looking in a fun house mirror – all distorted and wonky…? πŸ˜”

❌ So many of my clients don’t realise their own value.

❌ They aren’t willing to own their positives.

❌ They don’t lean into their strengths.

πŸ€·β€β™€οΈ “Anyone could have done it…”

πŸ€·β€β™€οΈ “But it was a fluke!”

πŸ€·β€β™€οΈ “I only achieved it because of the team around me…”

❗️If we can’t see how great we are – honestly, how can we ever hope to convince anyone else…?

🎁 M’s ACTION

Make that choice to own your strengths! 😁πŸ’ͺ

Here’s two options:

βœ… Easy: when someone compliments you, don’t deflect it or undermine it – simply say “thank you”.

βœ… Harder: email/ text 5-10 friends & colleagues and ask them to describe you in 5-10 words.

Go for the harder one if you can

– when I do this with my clients, it can be a radical experience for them to realise what other people really think of them… 😁🌟πŸ”₯

✴️ N IS FOR NEUROPLASTICITY 🎁✴️

Imagine a field with a gate at either side 🌾

As people walk between the two gates, the grass is worn away and a path is created…

…which means people are even more likely to walk that path in the future.

BUT if one of those gates is moved, a NEW path is created – and the grass regrows over the old path 🌟

The same happens in the brain!

Every thought you think fires a neural pathway in your brain ⚑️

The more often you think a thought, the more embedded that pathway becomes (physically – the synapses literally move closer together)…

…meaning you’re more likely to think that thought again.

😩 If that thought is negative (eg “I’m a fraud”), this is not helpful

😁 But just like the grass in that field, if you choose to consistently redirect your thought (eg to “I can do this”)…

…that negative pathway will over time wither, and the new POSITIVE thought will become the default πŸ”₯

I know this to be true, because I’ve done it.

I used to have very ingrained Imposter-fuelled negative pathways, which led me to chronic fatigue and panic attacks.

But then I learned how to change my thoughts – and I haven’t been ill since 😊πŸ’ͺ

🎁 N’s ACTION

When you find yourself in a negative thought pattern, ask yourself,

πŸ’‘ “is this thought helpful to me?”

And if the answer is no, change it to one that is!

❌ Eg FROM: “I’m going to be terrified when I have to speak up in that meeting”

βœ… TO: “I am going to be calm and confident and express myself clearly”

Don’t worry at this stage about whether or not you believe it!

The most important priority is to NOT further embed the negative thought, but instead work on building a more positive pathway.

If you build it, the belief will come… πŸ˜‰βœ¨

(Anyone else remember Field of Dreams…? πŸ˜‰)

✴️ O IS FOR ORGANISATION 🎁✴️

A very common fear among my clients is that they’re going to drop the ball

– and it’s all going to come tumbling down around them… πŸ₯Ί

But the truth is, there is a direct relationship between your organisation (or lack of it) and your #ImposterSyndrome.

πŸ’‘ Because you feel overwhelmed, it makes your Imposter Syndrome stronger

– who am I to think I can do this?! πŸ€·β€β™€οΈ

But importantly, your Imposter Syndrome is also a CAUSE of your disorganisation:

❌ you don’t prioritise your own work

❌ you don’t set effective boundaries

❌ you don’t say NO.

Too busy people-pleasing to make the hard decisions about what is the best thing to be doing, for you, right now… 😞

🎁 O’s ACTION

✨ Your time & energy are like a pile of golden glitter

✨ This pile isn’t endless – so you have to be careful about how & where you sprinkle it

✨ Don’t spread it too thin!

And don’t throw it about thoughtlessly… 😬

Really think about what will benefit from that glitter, and pile it up!

Be focussed and strategic about how you use your time & energy – and you will get better results 😁πŸ’ͺ

(And stop reinforcing that Imposter…)

✴️ P IS FOR PROCRASTINATION 🎁✴️

You know WHAT you want to get done.

But you just can’t make yourself do it! 😬

And the longer it goes on, the more impossible it feels… 😱

Procrastination can be so debilitating – and it’s very common when you have #ImposterSyndrome.

❌ Fear of failure

❌ perfectionism

❌ overwhelm

all contribute to this horrible stuckness.

🎁 P’s ACTION

When I notice procrastination (for me, anything I find boring and/or hard, eg sorting out finances… 😩)

I remind myself:

🌟 “You can do anything for 15 minutes” 🌟

I learned this from an American super-cleaner called FlyLady.

⏲ I set a timer, and get started – because really, 15 minutes, how hard can it be? πŸ€·β€β™€οΈ

It works every time 😁πŸ’ͺ

Once you’ve got over that initial mountain of inertia and got STARTED, it’s so much easier to carry on… πŸ”₯

Try it with anything you notice you’re procrastinating over today 😁

✴️Q FOR QUESTIONING 🎁✴️

Thoughts aren’t real.

My world changed forever when I learned this 🌟

Just because my #ImposterSyndrome was telling me, “you are a failure” (or whatever your Imposter is telling you)

didn’t make it the TRUTH 😲

Instead, you have the ability to QUESTION what you have in your head –

which takes away its power 😁πŸ’ͺ

🎁 Q’s ACTION

When you notice yourself thinking something unhelpful to you, ask yourself that simple but powerful question:

πŸ€” “is that really true?” πŸ€”

And then notice how you feel when you realise that it isn’t

– which it won’t be, most of the time… 😁🌟

Remember,

πŸ”₯ “the important thing is not to stop questioning”

If Einstein said it, it has to be true… πŸ˜‰

✴️ R IS FOR RESPECT 🎁✴️

“No-one can make you feel inferior without your consent.”*

It’s taken me a few years to fully grasp the amazingness of this quote 😍

It works in your personal life; in your career; and it’s equally applicable to your negative thoughts/ #ImposterSyndrome.

It may be uncomfortable to recognise this – but YOU are responsible for your thoughts.

If they’re not supporting you, YOU can do something about it πŸ’ͺ

No-one – including yourself – can make you feel inferior (or negative in any way), without you allowing that to happen… 😞

I’m not saying it’s easy to overcome this – while it can be, it definitely isn’t always.

But it can be done! 😁πŸ’ͺ

🎁 R’s ACTION

I’m a bit fan of affirmations – the more you hear yourself say something, the more you will believe it! 😍

Tell yourself,

πŸ”₯ you are worthy. You are enough. You are loved.”

(or whatever helps you feel that wonderful feeling of self-Respect).

NB recent research suggests that we respond most powerfully to affirmations when we talk to ourselves

βœ… using our name

βœ… and in the third person (ie “you are” rather than “I am”).

Try it, and see! 😊πŸ”₯

*Eleanor Roosevelt, just in case!

✴️ S IS FOR STRESS 🎁✴️

“It’s not the stress that kills you – it’s your reaction to it”*

Acute stress – those short bursts of high-intensity – aren’t fun

– but they aren’t what do the damage 😬

It’s CHRONIC stress that’s the problem

– when stress happens too often, and you don’t give yourself a chance to recover in between 😩

It takes 4-6 hours for your nervous system to re-set after a stress episode.

❗️Remember that recovery period!

It’s helps stop you ending up with chronic stress, which is the type that kills you… 😱

🎁 S’s ACTION

My favourite anti-stress tool is box breathing

🌟 a quick and easy way to help re-set your system after a stress episode.

βœ… Simply breathe in for eg 4 counts, hold for 4 counts, out for 4 counts, and hold for 4 counts.

βœ… Then repeat!

Ideally you want to slowly extend your counts until you are up to nearer 10

(ie count up to 4 for a few cycles, then go to 5 for a few cycles, then to 6 etc…)

✨ this gradual slowing of your breathing increases the calming of your system.

It has an instant positive impact – and helps you prevent developing that dangerous chronic stress… 😁πŸ’ͺ

*quote from Hans Selye, the physician who first defined stress.

✴️ T IS FOR “TYRANNICAL SHOULD” 🎁✴️

Once upon a time, a woman stood in a room in Thailand.

On her outstretched arms she balanced a huge pile of very heavy, brightly-coloured floor cushions.

Next to her, a grey-haired man with bushy eyebrows man held another cushion.

He looked her in the eyes, and asked, “do you want another cushion on that pile…?”

She had to decide what to do πŸ€·β€β™€οΈ

Each cushion represented one of the “Tyrannical shoulds” she was putting on herself.

The ache in her arms made it viscerally clear, the burden she was bearing –

she was CHOOSING to bear 😩

Did she want to add another cushion to the pile?

No, she did not.

She put the cushions down… 🌟✨

This was a turning-point moment for me, in my struggle with what I call the “Tyrannical should” 😊πŸ’ͺ

🎁 T’s ACTION

Notice your language:

❗️”should” is too often a stick we use to beat ourselves up with!

Especially when we struggle with #ImposterSyndrome

You CAN choose an alternative:

βœ… want

βœ… choose to

βœ… would like

Don’t labour on under the weight of all those “shoulds”

– you too can choose to put the cushions down… 😍

✴️ U IS FOR UNIQUE 🎁✴️

Comparisonitis is even more prevalent than Covid.

It’s a debilitating disease…

(Especially among those suffering from #ImposterSyndrome.)

And in comparison with those around us:

😩 we undervalue our talents

😩 we underestimate our impact

😩 we underrate our achievements.

🎁 U’s ACTION

Today’s action is very simple:

– to remember, you are UNIQUE!

There is no-one else in the world just like you.

Comparisons are pointless.

So:

βœ… stay in your own lane

βœ… keep focussed on your own progress

βœ… and keep remembering to recognise your own achievements.

If you haven’t done it yet, make a list of at least 20 things you’re proud of achieving this year (or more than 20 if you can!) 😊πŸ’ͺπŸ”₯

✴️ V IS FOR VICTIM 🎁✴️

You can sometimes feel completely at the mercy of your #ImposterSyndrome.

Those terrible thoughts that take over, undermining you, dragging you down… 😩

But it doesn’t help to allow yourself to get stuck in a Victim mindset.

It makes you feel passive and powerless 😞

And you’re not! ✨

You CAN change this 😁πŸ’ͺ

When I was working to overcome my Imposter-fuelled chronic fatigue

– I used to listen to George Michael’s “Faith” every morning to remind myself,

✨ “you’ve got to have faith, faith, faith…” ✨

– that by re-training my brain, I WOULD overcome my unhelpful thought patterns, and regain my mental and physical health..

And I did 😁πŸ’ͺπŸ™

🎁 V’s ACTION

It can be so helpful to have a reminder to keep going, that change IS possible.

It helps keep you out of that stuck, Victim mindset.

πŸ”₯ What would be yours?

🌟 A song, an object, an image?

πŸ”₯ Identify it, and look at it or listen to it every day!

It WILL make a difference… ✨

✴️ W IS FOR WANT 🎁✴️

“I wish I had a magic wand and could make it all go away in an instant – but I don’t”.

I say this to every new client.

I WISH it was that simple… πŸ˜”

But unfortunately the truth is that re-wiring your brain to get rid of your #ImposterSyndrome takes consistent effort, over time.

You have to really WANT it.

So you’re then motivated to take action to get it 😁πŸ’ͺ

🎁 W’s ACTION

If you don’t know what you Want, how will you ever get it?

It’s a great time of year to be setting intentions.

So, what is that YOU Want for 2022? πŸ€·β€β™€οΈ

My word for 2022 is “DEEP”

– I feel so amazingly lucky to have the life and career that I have, with the love of my family, and the incredible satisfaction of making a difference in the world.

So my goal is even more of the same 😁πŸ”₯πŸ’ͺ

❌ No Shiny Object Syndrome.

❌ No distractions, dissipation or diffusion.

βœ… Instead, going DEEP on the stuff that really matters: my health, my family, and KGC Ltd.

What about you – what’s yours…? πŸ€”

(And if that happens to be wanting to smash your Imposter, you know where to come… πŸ˜‰)

✴️ HAPPY CHRISTMAS! 🎁✴️

🎁 X IS FOR XMAS!

🎁 Y IS FOR YULE!

🎁 and Z IS FOR ZZZZZZZ…

(an opportunity for a good rest at the end of a busy year… πŸ€—)

This is the last instalment of my Naked Confidenceβ„’ Advent Calendar…

…and all that remains is to wish you all a very Merry Christmas and a Happy New Year! πŸ€ΆπŸŽ„βœ¨

Thank you very much to EVERYONE that has been part of my 2021

πŸ’– readers, commenters, coaches & colleagues

πŸ’– and especially my business buddy Nicola Pitt

πŸ’– and my Administrator Ruth Walker for her invaluable support (and patience!).

But the biggest thank you of all goes to my wonderful clients

– for trusting me to support their transformation from Imposter Syndrome to Naked Confidence πŸ˜ŠπŸ™πŸ’–

It is a joy and a privilege to share your journey! 😍

Onwards and upwards for us all in 2022 😁πŸ”₯πŸ’ͺ

with festive love πŸ€ΆπŸ’–

Kirsten xx

p.s. if you haven’t taken my Quiz yet, you can find out which type of Imposter you are by clicking here… 😁

Kirsten Goodwin

The Naked Confidenceβ„’ Coach

Hired to help female leaders feeling the pain and pressure of their position. Transforming your Mindset AND Skillset πŸ”₯ Banish your Imposter, and find your way, your confidence, & your edge.

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