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Kirsten Goodwin | Naked Confidence Coach

Short but sweet.

That’s my motto when it comes to “reframing” language 😁πŸ’ͺ

We all have those terrible thoughts from our Inner Critic:

😩 You’re not good enough/ not clever enough

😩 They all think you’re useless

😩 You are a failure (that was always mine… 😞)

And we usually get the same ones, repeated! πŸ™„

When I’m working with clients, I like to help them find positive things to say to themselves when these thoughts intrude πŸ€—

The temptation is go into a long, complex speech (partly to help persuade yourself!).

But actually, the most effective response is something simple, direct – and that can be easily repeated πŸ’ͺ

Because that’s the key to success:

✨ with the power of neuroplasticity, every time you challenge these unhelpful thoughts you are re-wiring your neural pathways AWAY from them, and choosing to replace them with something more empowering instead.

It’s no good if you can’t quite remember what that empowering thing is! πŸ˜‚

The one I’ve traditionally used for myself is “you’ve got this!”. 

I have found this covers most eventualities, and its enthusiasm & energy really works for me 😊πŸ”₯

But recently, with the ongoing challenge of trying to juggle family health stuff with work, life, being a mum & wife – you know, the usual…

… I’ve been finding something else more helpful.  

And that is: “you are doing the best you can” 😊πŸ’ͺ

πŸ’ͺ Am I managing to watch every hockey match?  No – but I’m doing the best I can…

πŸ’ͺ Am I replying to every single email within 24 hours?  No – but I’m doing the best I can…

πŸ’ͺ Am I creating a culinary masterpiece each night? No – but I’m doing the best I can…

And do you know what – that’s good enough πŸ₯°

So this week have a think about what your helpful, empowering phrase is 😊🧑πŸ’ͺ

πŸ€” If you have had one before, consider, would it benefit from a tweak to take account of where your life/ work is now?

πŸ€” And if you haven’t had one before, create one!  But remember – short but sweet is the goal. 

Wishing you a positive, productive, and SHORT-BUT-SWEET-EMPOWERMENT-filled week! πŸ˜„πŸ”₯πŸ’ͺ  

with much love 😊🧑

Kirsten xx

Kirsten Goodwin

The Naked Confidenceβ„’ Coach

Hired to help female leaders feeling the pain and pressure of their position. Transforming your Mindset AND Skillset πŸ”₯ Banish your Imposter, and find your way, your confidence, & your edge.

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